The Wait

Hey everyone,

I know quite a few ladies out there that have yet to find that guy that makes their heart chime. If you are one of those ladies, that’s totally fine because he’s out there. I think its a great thing to desire to be in a positive, fruitful relationship and one day get married. So, I just want to dedicate this post to the ladies who are smack dabb in the middle of “the wait.”

Don’t invest in a declining asset
Know the qualities that you desire your man to have. Write it on paper somewhere. There’s something intrinsic that happens inside us when we write things down. Its as if the words gets deep down in our hearts. So write down the qualities you desire in a man so you would know if a guy is worth your time. Let’s be honest, every guy ISN’T. I’m not tying to dog the male race at all. I’m just keeping it 100. This is a business paradigm, but your time is valuable. You don’t need to go on a date with any and every guy. Be open, but its ok to be selective. Its actually better that way. Think of it from a branding/marketing perspective. Brands are super selective of who they partner or associate with. High end brands very rarely (if ever) partner or associate with low end brands. You probably wont see Gucci partnering with Target’s Merona brand. Why is that? Because  Gucci is not going to partner with a brand that will diminish it’s value. So why should you give your time to guys that aren’t worth your time and do not add value to your life?

Don’t down play your net worth
Before even going on a date you need to know how much you are worth. You are priceless. There are some ladies that take the perspective that “I really hope that this guy asks me out again” after a first date. As if the have an expiration date on finding a guy that would want to be in a relationship. After any date your stance should be that your time is valuable and its just as much your choice (as it is the guy’s choice) whether you want to go on another date with said person. You have just as much of a choice.

Avoid Liquidation
I know I alluded to this earlier but I want to debunk a few myths out there that you may have believed. Regardless of your age, you do not have an expiration date. There is no internal countdown clock thats ticking and counting down the time you have left to get married. You will not miss the boat if you let a dud (of a guy) go along his merry way to clear space for the right guy to come around. Truth is, a quality guy is not going to come around and stick around if there’s already another guy occupy real estate in your life. A quality guys wants your whole heart, will be committed fully to you and desires the same in return. Don’t believe lies that you will never find someone to love. Do not throw in the towel or give up. Continue to believe that he’s out there.

Before I go I wanted to leave you with a few thoughts.

You are Loved
I know sometimes its hard to believe that when you are in the lowest of moments but know that your heavenly Father loves you with an everlasting love. “God told them, I’ve never quit loving you and never will. Expect love, love, and more love!” – Jeremiah 31:3 MSG
You are Important
“He creates each of us by Christ Jesus to join him in the work he does, the good work he has gotten ready for us to do, work we had better be doing.” – Ephesians 2:10 MSG God has huge plans for you to become all that he’s designed for you to be. He wants you to partner with him to advance his kingdom.
You are in God’s hands
Trust his timing. Growing up I was told that God’s timing may not necessarily be in my timing. But his timing is always perfect because he will never show up late. Trust that at the perfect time he will bring THE guy into your life.
I hope this post has encouraged you in some way. Thanks for reading!


  1. March 7, 2017 / 11:50 pm

    Dude. Keep talking this talk. Women need to know this stuff and the current Christian culture makes it hard to believe.. it’s so easy for guys to keep you around as a friend and never step up to the plate and actually ask you out! It feels like the real men are all in hiding. That’s why you’re such a great example. Keep on keeping on!

    • fedrickbowe
      March 14, 2017 / 4:50 pm

      Thank you Katherine, I really appreciate you. I agree that women need to know these things. Honestly, I think if a guy never steps up its probably because of two main reasons. He may have his eye on someone else. Or he may not really be that into the lady enough to pursue her. I think real men make it absolutely clear in their actions, words, and deeds that they are in pursuit of a lady. Guys love the chase. I think all ladies deserve to be pursued. I truly believe there are guys out there that see a lady’s great worth! And a guy out there that will see yours as well. You don’t have to worry, he will find you. Thank you for sharing and for reading the post!

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